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As we press in to But God #1 (found on page 3 in the book, But God- Getting to Know Your Bridegroom in the Old Testament), we take a closer look at Adam in the Garden. Thank you to Christine Annunziato for writing this thought provoking addition to the study. YouTube videoblog found at http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CyH18AIYc-U&feature=youtu.be


Genesis 2:15 states, “And the Lord God took the man, and put him into the Garden of Eden to dress it and to keep it. And the Lord God commanded the man, saying, ‘Of every tree of the garden you may freely eat: But of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, you shall not eat of it: for in the day that you eat of it you shall surely die.’” Adam received this word before Eve was even created, because the next thing that happens, in verse 18 is that The Lord says, “It is not good for a man to be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him.” In verse 21 He does just that with the rib he pulls from Adams side.

Eve tells the serpent in Genesis 3:3 that she knew they must not eat “or even touch” the tree in the middle of the garden; adding a rule that even God had not stated. Thus the first “fence law” is born.  When convinced by the smooth-talking serpent to “take and eat,” the deception is complete—she had now done the very thing her husband had warned her not to do and now possessed “the knowledge of good and evil.”  Even more disturbing then, is her move to hand the forbidden fruit to her husband—she knew better!  So why is the sin counted as Adams? Romans 5:12–“When Adam sinned, sin entered the world. Adam’s sin brought death, so death spread to everyone, for everyone sinned.” He knew better as well, as he had heard it directly from the mouth of God.

     This must have something to do with the role of the groom to the bride, as Christ is to the church. There must be a spiritual responsibility on the part of the man that as God created him, he has a role of spiritual intercession as head of the woman. It seems he had been given the ability to pardon the sin of his wife, and be ultimately responsible for it. 1 Corinthians 11:3 says this, “But I want you to understand that Christ is the head of every man, and the man is the head of a woman, and God is the head of Christ.”

Let’s look at an Old Testament scripture regarding man’s responsibility as head of his woman: Numbers 30:6-8 says “If she marries a husband, while under her vows or any thoughtless utterance of her lips by which she has bound herself,  and her husband hears of it and says nothing to her on the day that he hears, then her vows shall stand, and her pledges by which she has bound herself shall stand. But if, on the day that her husband comes to hear of it, he opposes her, then he makes void her vow that was on her, and the thoughtless utterance of her lips by which she bound herself. And the Lord will forgive her.” Now, I know this is a pledge or a vow we are speaking of here, but I find it fascinating that the man could “make void” her vow, “and The Lord will forgive her.”  And as we see back in Genesis 3, Adam allowed Eve’s discrepancy with the forbidden fruit to stand; he made no objection. This shows me that the man is always called to be near enough to His wife to reverse a promise to do something.

The fact that Eve went so far as to eat the fruit, whether in front of Adam or not, was a declaration that he was sleeping on the job. So not only was Adam held responsible for the sin of defying a command of God, but he was also held responsible for the sin of omission, for not interceding on Eve’s behalf. The bible declares that Eve was deceived, but Adam sinned (1 Timothy 2:14). In 2 Corinthians 11:3 Paul warns the Bride, the church:  “But I fear, lest by any means, as the serpent beguiled Eve through his subtlety, so your minds should be corrupted from the simplicity that is in Christ.” What an amazing Bridegroom we have Who watches over us, while at the Right Hand of the Father, who in Hebrews 7:24 is constantly voiding any “oaths” we may make to our own demise:  “Consequently, he is able to save to the uttermost those who draw near to God through him, since He always lives to make intercession for them.” In Luke 23:34 Jesus says, “Forgive them Father, for they don’t know what they do.” This is why, as the Bride of Christ, we must know and trust completely the Lover of our souls, our Bridegroom, who will give us the strength to avoid temptation, void our sinful vows, convict us in order to repent and turn back to Him. He will sanctify us until we are that spotless Bride for whom He has promised to return. Remember that Ephesians 5:26 says, “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her, so that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, that He might present to Himself the church in all her glory, having no spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that she would be holy and blameless.…”

1. As a wife, how does this idea affect your understanding of your husband’s role in your marriage? Are there any changes you may need to make for this role to be in proper order?
2. As a husband, how seriously to you take the role of “spiritual head” of your home?  Are you willing to give yourself up for your bride? Are there any areas in which you need to take renewed responsibility?

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